I find it very cool that I was born a Woman

Did you know… that today we are celebrating International Women’s Rights Day? So today is not just about Women and how amazing we are, but it’s also about our rights (and responsibilities) and gender equality (and equity) and about Feminism (not misandry). And because I found out about aaaaaall of these today, the 8th of March won a special place in my heart.

I started thinking about this article in the morning and I couldn’t decide if I wanted to talk from a feminist perspective or just a feminine one. I still haven’t found an answer, so I’ll just write and see what comes out.

I find it very cool that I was born a Woman.

Pause. Something strange happened in my mind.

When I wrote ‘woman’ my brain instantly said - too sensitive, unstable, weak.

Why am I associating these words?

A quick answer would probably be that the media, trying to prove that women aren’t like that, makes you associate these words. I don’t think it’s intended this way, but this is the result.

Yesterday I watched a pseudo-feminist film. I’m not going to give you the title because what I’m about to say is not very nice, but if you’re curious you can drop me a message and I’ll tell you. The film felt like a checklist of stereotypes and archetypes that the producers wanted in their film. The main character is a shy girl, you also get the best friend, the crush (which, this time, was the best character), the captain of the football team, a few girls of colour in very secondary roles, a girl in a wheelchair who shows up from time to time, and a trans girl who got like 30 seconds of screen time. It’s awesome that the film was so inclusive, but it’s stupid that they only used stereotypes. The protagonist proved more than once that she was too sensitive, unstable, weak. I don’t like saying this about any young girl, even fictional, but that’s how the character was built…

But I come back to the real world and I think of all the awesome Women in my life. And I think about all the people I follow on social media or whom I personally know and who break all these stereotypes. It’s starting to get easier to identify misandry and useless stereotypes. We are stepping out of the mould and reinventing ourselves.

I find it very cool that I was born a Woman. I couldn’t give you a clear reason why. I’m not feminine and I don’t have those interests that we consider specific to girls - makeup, clothes, or poetry. I seldom wear makeup, I don’t own any dress/skirt, and I write prose (and not any prose, prose that shakes you). I’m not gracious - I step like an elephant and I have two left feet. And in spite of having nothing to do with these stereotypes I feel very much like a Woman.

I have to admit, for a long time I felt strange about this - I was born a woman, I feel like a woman, but I don’t fit the woman mould. Well, whoever created this mould can put it in the trash ‘cause it’s not good.

It’s 2021, International Women’s Day, well then let’s stop putting useless labels and let’s stop trying to fit people in nonsensical moulds. Just so you know, I would be more than happy if feminism became history and if I would never ever have to write another post about misandry or misogynism, gender stereotypes, and others.

And when I look on social media and I hear people around me speaking, many times I find it very cool that I was born a Woman. Because we have such an awesome history with strong chicks who changed as much as they could in this world, with such interesting and different literature. The world is nicer when we understand that it’s an infinite puzzle, not a piece of bread that we need to share. And the truth is that our ‘ancestresses fought to promote this image.

Yes. I found a new definition of feminism. The fight to prove that the world is a puzzle. Of course, in time, men and whoever else wanted to, joined us. But someone has to raise the issue, and when you’re up you can’t see what is happening at the grassroots level.

On the 8th of March, I wish that we can all be the way we feel, without trying to fit in the mould. It’s cool to be a Woman, it’s cool to be a Man, and it’s cool to be both or neither. It’s cool to be anything. And you know why? Because we all have a story behind us that we carry on. And I’m not just talking about individual stories, I’m mostly talking about those collective stories.

So, if today’s about Women, I’ll wish you to be as awesome and unique as you all are and don’t try to fit in moulds that don’t fit you (you know, it’s like Cinderella’s shoe - it only fitted her, not her sisters). And, just so you know, in my generation the future sounds bright - with rights and taken responsibilities, with equality and equity, with real feminism. I wish you all many years with Rights! *this is a word by word translation from Romanian*

P.S. I still don’t know what perspective I wrote this from. It’s important that I wrote this and I hope you like it.